i’m a firm believer in finding random quotes online.

no matter what kind of quotation it is, i will read it, instantly fall in love with it, somehow associate it with my own life, take a screenshot of it, and then file it away into obscurity.

however, before i add it into my little folder inconspicuously entitled ‘Quotes’, i usually share the wise excerpt with any of my many social networking websites…

because that is a sure-fire way of making certain that other people can connect with my thoughts that i didn’t actually make up.

but mostly, it allows for a slew of judgment when they think that it is about someone in particular…

especially if it is a citation referring to anything ‘love’ related.

this brings me to a passage that has been bashed and beaten to death from its relentless use in any form of communication available to human beings:

“If you love something, set it free; if it comes back, it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was.”

i used to rely whole-heartedly on this one.

it was as if every little thing i had ever believed in had been perfectly summed up into a few simple words and i was one of very few people who were in possession of it.

i would print it out and tape it onto my bedroom walls…

scribble it into my Lisa Frank notebook…

add it onto my Friendster quotes…

this was an absolute treasure chest for an amateur writer who only knew love through what she took away from teeny bopper movies!

but then i kind of grew up…

and i stopped simply reading quotes, but more so, analyzing and dissecting them.

which is when i realized that this saying made absolutely no sense whatsoever!

why in the world would i let go of something or more importantly, someone if i love them so much?

(and i don’t mean that in a crazy and psychotic lock-them-in-my-basement-and-hide-them-away-from-the-rest-of-the-world kind of love…

i mean genuine, we-don’t-have-any-life-altering-problems kind of l-o-v-e!)

if we are in actual love with one another, then i am going to fight for you every step of the fucking way…

with every single fiber of my being.

i mean, tooth and nail, blood, sweat, tears and anything else that unrealistically depicts the physical and emotional struggle that i would endure just to make sure that i don’t lose the person i am meant to be with…

who in their right fucking mind would let go of something like that, and then simply sit there and wait patiently until it returns, if it really does come back?!

because that would obviously be the only possible way to know if you’re in true love, right?

fucking bullshit!

like with most elements in our lives, relationships take work…

A LOT OF HARD WORK.

and if the person you are in it with would rather merely give up instead of trying to follow it through, then maybe this notation does contain some useful advice:

by all means, SET THEM FREE!